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Where Do Parents Sit? Do guests sit or stand when the bride walks down the aisle? Who stands under the chuppah with the bride and groom?
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Rabbi Davis assists you in merging your different wedding ceremony traditions into your own unique interfaith or nondenominational ceremony, giving you an opportunity to define yourselves spiritually and add even more meaning to your wedding. Use the chart to determine which wedding traditions have significance for you. Rabbi Davis will gladly explain the symbolism behind the different rituals and help you decide which ones to incorporate into your interfaith wedding, mixed marriage or commitment ceremony.
Here's a suggestion Rabbi Davis likes: Walk together! When it comes to the procession, take a cue from the Jewish tradition where both parents walk their child down the aisle. Both sets of parents can make a public display of greeting each other at the end of the aisle, demonstrating the coming together of two faiths. In an interfaith, mixed marriage or non-religious ceremony, walking together eliminates the idea of the father "giving" away the bride to her new husband and also symbolizes the merging of two families.
Learn more about having Rabbi Davis perform your interfaith, mixed marriage wedding ceremony under the chuppah.
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Wedding Customs
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Jewish Custom
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Christian Custom
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| Guests of the bride sit on the right |
Yes
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No
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| Guests of the bride sit on the left |
No
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Yes
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| Guests stand when bride walks down the aisle |
No
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Yes
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| Guests remain seated when bride walks down the aisle |
Yes
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No
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| Bride stands to the right of the groom |
Yes
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No
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| Bride stands to the left of the groom |
No
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Yes
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| Parents stand with their children during the wedding ceremony |
Yes
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No
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| Parents sit in the front row during the wedding ceremony |
No
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Yes
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| Signing the Ketubah |
Yes
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No
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| Blessing the Couple |
Yes
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Yes
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| Lighting the Unity Candle |
No
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Yes
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| Exchange of Vows |
Yes
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Yes
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| Exchange of Rings |
Yes
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Yes
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| Reading from Scripture |
No
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Yes
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| Declaration of Intent/Consent |
No
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Yes
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| Standing Under the Chuppah |
Yes
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No
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| Drinking Wine from the Kiddush Cup |
Yes
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No
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| Breaking the Glass |
Yes
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No
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| Rabbi Recites the Seven Blessings |
Yes
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No
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Three Faiths--Three Processionals
The Order of the Processional—Jewish
The Rabbi and/or cantor Grandparents of the bride, who are then seated in the first row Grandparents of the groom, who are then seated in the first row Groomsmen, walking in pairs Best man The groom, who is escorted by his parents. Bridesmaids Maid or Matron of Honor Ring bearer and/or flower girl The bride, escorted by her parents
The Order of the Processional—Catholic The priest, groom, and best man enter through a side door and wait at the altar. The groomsmen and bridesmaids walk down in pairs, starting with the two who will stand farthest from the bride and groom, and ending with the best man and maid of honor. The ring bearer and/or flower girl. Finally, the bride and her father, or other close family member. The bride walks on the left side. If the bride's escort is her father, he leads her to the front of the aisle, then takes his seat next to the bride's mother. The Order of the Processional—Protestant The mothers of the bride and groom are seated after all guests are seated, immediately before the start of the processional music. They are usually escorted to their seats by a brother of the bride or groom, or by another usher. After they are seated, the officiant, groom and best man enter by a side door and wait at the altar. Groomsmen may also enter by a side door, or can escort the bridesmaids. Bridesmaids Ring bearer and/or flower girl Maid or Matron of Honor The bride, escorted by her father or other close male family member or friend. At the front of the aisle, her escort can remain standing with her until the minister asks "Who gives this woman in marriage?" to which he responds "I do," or "Her mother and I do." However, some people feel this tradition is old fashioned and sexist, and choose to forgo it. In such a case, her escort walks with the bride to the front of the aisle, and then takes his seat in the front row. |
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